The 5 Ways School Makes You Fail

Andrew Lacayo July 25, 2015 5
The 5 Ways School Makes You Fail

A large part of success is not striving to be liked by all. If you aim to always please others, then you will never be able to do what is best for you and achieve your own personal goals.

However, academics, specifically elementary to high school, puts kids in a place where their only option is to be liked by the majority of others or they will not have many or any friends. Here are the 5 ways school will make you fail:

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1. You Only Have One Group To Make Friends

The kids at your school are the core group of the people you associate with. If none of them like you, you will have a very lonely time as a student, thus a need and want for friends arises. The only result of clawing for friends is depression, which is a HUGE distracter. Depression sucks away your motivation and leads you in the opposite direction of being fully productive.

2. You Have No Time For Yourself

If you are too busy trying to get others to like you, you will be stuck doing what others want you to do, you will be unable to focus on growing yourself, your goals, and the massive action you need to take. While you are running around attempting to gain friends, you leave yourself no time for you. The less time you give yourself, thus less time spent growing, will not allow you focus on using your abilities to help others. This is the opposite of providing value and you must provide value to be successful.

3. You Become What Others Want

Following up on doing what actions others want you to take, you will also become what others want you to be, and more likely than not, what they want will not help you become successful. Let’s be honest here, the majority of people you know do not have massive success, especially if they are a fellow student. They may be successful on their own terms, but not on yours. One person’s success is another person’s average.

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4. You Fall Into A Toxic Mental Trap

You will develop a mental trap that, if not put to rest early, will carry into your adult life and affect all of your outcomes. Think of how many adults in your life care way too much about what other people think.

Think of how many adults in your life don’t do what makes them happy because they are too afraid to let others down. I know way too many. I also know way too many people who literally tell me to do what others want just and make them happy because it’s the “right thing to do”. This is incredibly toxic way to live and will make others happy and successful, but not you.

5. You Gain Poor Emotional Intelligence

You will not be happy through being what others want you to be. Happiness is a key part of being successful. It is extremely hard to better yourself and provide value to others if you are depressed. Focusing on your goals and ambitions is mentally exhausting when you are lonely and sad. When you are not happy, it is hard to care about the goals you want to achieve, even the most important ones.

Instead, we need to promote strategies for students to have high self-esteem. Successful people shake things up and act as a charging bull against the status quo. As a successful person, you will be hated on and criticized. One cannot handle that if they are always trying to please others and have low self-esteem.

They will back-peddle and quit on their goals because they are too busy making everyone else happy. Learning to embrace your weirdness is tons of fun and will yield you divine results. Always remember that you have to be a freak to be freaky successful.

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5 Comments »

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    vishal mahour July 25, 2015 at 5:39 pm - Reply

    amazing post…. 🙂
    loved it <3

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    Brennan July 25, 2015 at 8:38 pm - Reply

    Nice article I would also add that school doesnt teach you enough things that you need for being an adult instead they spend time teaching you things you may never use again. Great article

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      Andrew Lacayo July 28, 2015 at 7:29 pm - Reply

      That can definitely be true. However, as John pointed out, there are many things that you can still use. It really depends on the individual, if you become a writer, for example, you may never use math above algebra. Yet if you become an engineer, you will be using advanced calculus. What it comes down to is that most people don’t get those specialized degrees in math and science. Most people don’t need to know math higher than algebra, or the basics of calculus. However I have noticed that in many schools, the core components of being “well-rounded” are history, math, english/writing, and science. I would challenge that as there is no economics. Aside from english/writing, economics applies to everyone at all times, and it seems that most do not have a basic understanding of economics and how certain laws and policies affect the economy and the individual.

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    John W. July 26, 2015 at 1:29 am - Reply

    I disagree. It’s OUR need to be social that distracts us.
    I know what I was there to achieve and I kept that focus all the way through college. You will be surprised what you actually do use later in life. The need for math never goes away. Understanding science, even if it is following a simple recipe. Being anle to clearly communicate our thoughts. Even the social aspect to an extent. Jobs have the same bullshit clicks. You have to understand the drivers behind a customers wants ( like ego, or hand holding). Have you ever heard the saying “everything I ever needed to learn I learned in kindergarten”? Not far off.

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      Andrew Lacayo July 28, 2015 at 7:22 pm - Reply

      I hear what you are saying! You make some good points. As you said, it’s the social aspect. You knowing what you wanted to get out of school is great, but it also shows that you have high emotional intelligence and did not fall into the mental trap of needing to be liked by others.

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