The term “self-made man” gets thrown around a lot in society today, and you hear it especially often if you study success and are the type of person who has big dreams and wants to learn how to become highly successful.
You probably have heard tons of stories of all the self-made millionaires and billionaires that have come up from rags to riches and did it all by themselves.
No help. Nada. They did it all themselves and had no help, support, or assistance along the way.
Well, if you have been falling for these stories, it’s time I let you in on a little secret.
The truth is, there really is no such thing as the self-made man. Nobody can achieve success without a little help along the way.
Everyone needs people who support them and encourage them to achieve their dreams.
Do you think Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Steve Jobs started their empires by themselves, with no assistance or help whatsoever? Absolutely not! Aside from the help of a high quality team and supportive parents, these 3 superstars also received quite a bit of financial aid in their beginning ventures to get them on their feet.
For instance, Gates received a $50,000 investment from his father to purchase the DOS operating system that would go on to make him billions.
Zuckerberg received $85,000 from his folks early on in order to keep the struggling facebook above water in the early days.
And Jobs, the world famous innovator who was ruthless in turning nothing into something, received $91,000 in funding from a neighbor in the early days to launch his first computer products.
Now, in no way are my saying that you need rich parents in order to be successful and build a successful company. Their are plenty of successful individuals who have built empires with little funding, or outside sources of funding.
What I am saying, is that their is no such thing as the self-made man so to speak. Every successful individual, from Steve Jobs to Mark Zuckerberg to Jay-Z to Steven Spielberg, all had help and surrounded themselves with the right people from the beginning.
Did you catch that last part??
They surrounded themselves.
They specifically developed skills that allowed them attract the right people into their lives that supported them and allowed them to flourish. Not only that, but actually were key players in their story and were essential to making them who they are today.
The 3 People You Need To Make A Part of Your Life
I now want to share with you a concept that has been shared with me many times. Without further ado, here are the 3 types of people all superstars have in their life:
1. A mentor
This is a no-brainer. I don’t think I have to stress the importance of having a mentor.
If you don’t already have one I suggest you begin searching for one immediately. The idea behind having a mentor is having someone to look up to, to model, and ask questions, because they are where you want to be. You admire and respect them, and they have accomplished exactly what you want to accomplish (or very similar).
You must really get along with your mentor, and the 2 of you must really, genuinely care about each other.
You need this person in your life so that you can always be looking to them for guidance, and they allow you to keep your eyes on the prize and they can keep you from making fatal mistakes.
You will reach your goals much quicker and more smoothly if you have a mentor guiding you along the way.
Typically, your mentor will be quite a bit older than you, but don’t have any restrictions based on age when you are looking for a mentor. I think you get the picture, my point here is, if you don’t already have a strong mentor whom you trust, go find one!
2. A person similar to you to compete with
A lot of people do not realize this, but the reason Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were both able to achieve such high levels of success is because they were both very competitive people.
Specifically, with each other. Jobs was always getting pissed because he thought Gates was always trying to steal his ideas and innovations. And gates was always trying to one-up Jobs. They both were very competitive and drove each into success.
You need someone like this in your life. Someone who you can compete with and is driving you to be the best you.
It’s one thing for outside supporters and mentors to give you advice and support, but when you have someone along side you that has some skin in the game and the two of you are growing together, the competitive energy will keep you focused and allow both of you to reach much higher levels of success and create a positive impact on the world.
3. A person younger and less experienced than you to teach (A mentee)
This one has been argued quite a bit. Is it really necessary to teach someone else your knowledge and experience?? Will that really get you more success?
Aside from the fact that givers tend to be much happier and fulfilled, you will also be much more keen to remember certain things if you teach it to someone else. It ingrains it in your memory and holds you accountable.
Think about it, if you tell your mentee to live in a certain way, how you would look if you lived any way but that exact way of life?
If you are giving sound advice, it forces you to live a better life and be a stronger person. This is is a pretty simple and controversial concept, but I challenge you to find this person in your life to mentor and share your newfound knowledge with.
It just may transform the way you learn and go about life.
I Challenge You
If you do not already have these 3 types of people in your life, I challenge you to go find at least one of them to incorporate in your life in the coming months.
Don’t feel like you have to make a commitment to someone. Your mentor, competitor, and mentee will consistently change throughout you life.
The idea is to build the confidence and skills to always be able to attract new people into your life (the right one’s). I want you to go out and find at least one of these three types of people, and attempt to build a relationship with them on an emotional level. Just see where it takes you.
And hopefully, if you build enough momentum, you will eventually have a good match for all three of these characters.
Start providing value to those around you. Do helpful favors, and provide encouragement. Do whatever you can to help them closer to their goals.
When it comes time, they will gladly return the favor.
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