Here are the 8 steps required to break bad habits; if you perform each step to the letter, you will be freed from the bad habit.
Step 1: Desire and Decision
You must have a strong desire to break the habit. Without a strong desire to end the habit, you will not be able to progress through the next steps. Make a list of the reasons you want out (e.g. it’s preventing you from being your best, medical reasons, relationship issues, etc.). Once you have sufficient desire to change; you must make the decision to change.
Step 2: Thoughts
Whenever the first thought comes asking you to participate in the negative activity, you must immediately say “Cancel, Cancel” or switch your thoughts to something positive. Don’t ponder on it for a second; don’t give it a second thought. Your resistance must remain intact; keep the floodgate closed. Switch your thoughts to something positive that you enjoy, or a goal that you want to achieve.
Your mind is like a plot of soil, you must plant the seeds you want to grow, and remove any weeds as soon as they appear. Weeds grow quickly and will choke the harvest you desire. Remove the weeds swiftly and without reservation, don’t allow them to take over your garden. Don’t nurture the weeds, don’t give them sunlight. Remember this entire fight is over a thought, a thought that you control.
Step 3: Environment, Music and Television
You must change your environment, some environments are nesting grounds for certain habits. Remove yourself from those environments. Even the music and television shows you listen to can help hold you in a negative pattern. Ensure your entertainment is from a positive source. Rid your environment of items that cause you to think about your habit. Feel free to make one or two drastic moves in order to end this habit.
Step 4: Friends
You must remove any friends that promote the negative activity. Our friends are always taking us closer to or further away from where we want to be.
If necessary, find new friends that support a healthy lifestyle, because your friends are a prophecy of your future.
Step 5: Displacement
The reason for many bad habits is to deaden the feeling of a mundane life. The habit is a drug that gives you a brief high and allows you to forget that you are not totally fulfilled. You know that you are capable of doing more, achieving more, of being more.
Your habit gives you a sense of comfort and relaxation, but true rest comes from living your purpose. Replace the time you spend committing the habit with the discovery of you. Broaden your horizon; prepare to live the life you’ve always imagined. Re-direct that energy to propel you forward towards your true purpose. Replace the habit with another habit, something to keep your thoughts on track, like reading a certain book, jogging or even watching something positive on television.
Step 6: Meditation
Take quiet time daily to silence your mind; see yourself living a fulfilled life (even if it’s just for five minutes); surrender yourself to your creator; you may feel inclined to say a prayer.
Don’t ever bother thinking about the habit in any way; don’t give it your attention neither positively or negatively. This is especially necessary when under stress and/or when you don’t want to fight the thoughts.
Step 7: Forgive yourself and others
Forgive yourself for the time you wasted and the pain you’ve caused. Forgive the people who introduced you to the habit.
Forgive yourself when you make a mistake and keep going. Don’t let a stumbling block become a road block.
Step 8: Act like you’re free
NEVER-ever entertain the thought of the habit in any way; don’t entertain any thought associated with the habit. You no longer have anything to do with it, so act like it. (You may also want to read this article several times, to ensure you know all of the steps.)
Some Applicable Bad Habits:
1. Negative Relationships
2. Smoking Cigarettes
3. Lying and Gossiping
4. Anger and Jealousy
6. Eating Unhealthy Foods/Over Eating
Everyday you go without participating in the negative activity makes it easier and easier; you will eventually lose all desire to participate in that activity.
Everyone has something they must overcome before they can recognize their greatness. Overcome your obstacle and become your best you today.
Please Note: If your habit is life threatening and/or drug or alcohol related please seek medical/professional help.
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