One of the recent practices I’ve started in my life is to talk to as many strangers as possible. Men, women, boys, girls, kids, old people, tall people, short people, etc. It doesn’t matter who they are, the point is to develop myself into the most powerful communicator I can be, and get to the next level in my life. Here are 5 reasons you should talk to strangers more often:
1. It gets you out of your comfort zone
For 99.9% of people, going over to a random person and making a comment or attempting to start a conversation is a very discomforting thought. After all, this is a person you do not know and they could be mean, sassy, annoying, or a whole host of other negative things. And if they are any of these things, your comment or attempt to start a conversation could be ignored. Or worse, they could be extremely awkward and the conversation could go no where, leaving you standing there with a blank look on your face. Why would anyone want to put themselves through that kind of discomfort?
The reason is because getting out of your comfort zone is the best and most powerful way to grow as a person. Want to get to that next level in your career or in your life? You’re going to have to push yourself, which is going to be uncomfortable. So why not practice being uncomfortable?
A wise man once told me the best thing you can do for yourself is become comfortable being uncomfortable. As challenging as that may be, the more okay you can be during uncomfortable situations, the better off you are. It means you can handle more obstacles that life will throw at you and will make it farther in all aspects of life than your peers.
2. It breaks you out of your mundane trance
Most people go through their day with their headphones plugged in and their heads faced down. What kind of state do you think that puts you in? It forces you to get stuck in your own thoughts and probably overthink things.
Rather than staying in your shell and not creating any exciting moments or connections during your day, try talking to a few strangers…enthusiastically! Talk to your neighbors and the person who takes your order for lunch. Ask them how their day is going, and truly mean it.
These are the types of things that will break you out of your shell for the day and start to make you feel a little more energetic.
3. It develops your conversation skills
There is probably no greater skill in the world than conversation skills. Your ability to communicate will determine the quality of people whom you date, the amount of friends you have, even the amount of money you make. Those who can communicate in a powerful way and have smooth conversations with everyone have a better quality of life and are 100 times happier. Those who fail to develop their conversation skills usually settle for less quality in their life and wonder why some people always seem to get what they want while they are stuck at the bottom of the totem pole.
So practice your conversation skills by talking to strangers and going deeper with people you don’t know very well.
4. It builds your network
This is one reason that is very straightforward. It’s simple; the more people you talk to, the more people you are going to know, right? Meaning the more people you know, the bigger your network will be. And we all know how important your network is.
It’s not about what you know, it’s about who you know. So go get to know more people!
5. It puts you in a more confident state
For most people, talking to strangers is no fun. And it’s not because they don’t enjoy talking and getting to know people, it’s simply because of the social anxiety most of us have today. We don’t let ourselves enjoy talking to new people. We don’t even give them a chance! How unfair is that all the strangers in the world?
However, when you do let go of your anxiety and those voices in your head telling you that it’s wrong to talk to random people, you often times realize that most people are nice individuals and it’s very easy to make friends. Sure, most people you talk to won’t become your close friend, but often times you have a quick laugh with them or put a smile on their face by saying “Hi, nice bike!”
This will in turn start to make you giggle to yourself and put your mind in a more positive, confident state.
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