5 Reasons You Should Talk To Strangers More Often

Alex Hamm January 26, 2016 14
5 Reasons You Should Talk To Strangers More Often

One of the recent practices I’ve started in my life is to talk to as many strangers as possible. Men, women, boys, girls, kids, old people, tall people, short people, etc. It doesn’t matter who they are, the point is to develop myself into the most powerful communicator I can be, and get to the next level in my life. Here are 5 reasons you should talk to strangers more often:

1. It gets you out of your comfort zone

For 99.9% of people, going over to a random person and making a comment or attempting to start a conversation is a very discomforting thought. After all, this is a person you do not know and they could be mean, sassy, annoying, or a whole host of other negative things. And if they are any of these things, your comment or attempt to start a conversation could be ignored. Or worse, they could be extremely awkward and the conversation could go no where, leaving you standing there with a blank look on your face. Why would anyone want to put themselves through that kind of discomfort?

The reason is because getting out of your comfort zone is the best and most powerful way to grow as a person. Want to get to that next level in your career or in your life? You’re going to have to push yourself, which is going to be uncomfortable. So why not practice being uncomfortable?

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A wise man once told me the best thing you can do for yourself is become comfortable being uncomfortable. As challenging as that may be, the more okay you can be during uncomfortable situations, the better off you are. It means you can handle more obstacles that life will throw at you and will make it farther in all aspects of life than your peers.

2. It breaks you out of your mundane trance

Most people go through their day with their headphones plugged in and their heads faced down. What kind of state do you think that puts you in? It forces you to get stuck in your own thoughts and probably overthink things.

Rather than staying in your shell and not creating any exciting moments or connections during your day, try talking to a few strangers…enthusiastically! Talk to your neighbors and the person who takes your order for lunch. Ask them how their day is going, and truly mean it.

These are the types of things that will break you out of your shell for the day and start to make you feel a little more energetic.

3. It develops your conversation skills

There is probably no greater skill in the world than conversation skills. Your ability to communicate will determine the quality of people whom you date, the amount of friends you have, even the amount of money you make. Those who can communicate in a powerful way and have smooth conversations with everyone have a better quality of life and are 100 times happier. Those who fail to develop their conversation skills usually settle for less quality in their life and wonder why some people always seem to get what they want while they are stuck at the bottom of the totem pole.

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So practice your conversation skills by talking to strangers and going deeper with people you don’t know very well.

4. It builds your network

This is one reason that is very straightforward. It’s simple; the more people you talk to, the more people you are going to know, right? Meaning the more people you know, the bigger your network will be. And we all know how important your network is.

It’s not about what you know, it’s about who you know. So go get to know more people!

5. It puts you in a more confident state

For most people, talking to strangers is no fun. And it’s not because they don’t enjoy talking and getting to know people, it’s simply because of the social anxiety most of us have today. We don’t let ourselves enjoy talking to new people. We don’t even give them a chance! How unfair is that all the strangers in the world?

However, when you do let go of your anxiety and those voices in your head telling you that it’s wrong to talk to random people, you often times realize that most people are nice individuals and it’s very easy to make friends. Sure, most people you talk to won’t become your close friend, but often times you have a quick laugh with them or put a smile on their face by saying “Hi, nice bike!”

This will in turn start to make you giggle to yourself and put your mind in a more positive, confident state.

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14 Comments »

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    Credible Concepts January 29, 2016 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    Great read. As an entrepreneur, these factors have definitely made me better when it comes to the rules of engagement. Its not who or what you know but who knows “you!”

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    brian February 1, 2016 at 5:25 am - Reply

    It’s interesting and give fun fucts about life, its also a great way to relax your mind from a day full of activities. In my opinion, I think it’s owesome

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    Breezyb February 3, 2016 at 3:24 am - Reply

    Very well written and interesting article

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    Disha February 3, 2016 at 6:11 am - Reply

    This blog is really vvv helpful😊 well thought and written😄 waiting to see more!!👏

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    Ed Henkler February 9, 2016 at 2:58 am - Reply

    I think you make good points but I’d add a spin to your post. Don’t just talk with people. Seek to understand their passions and how you can help them. Don’t seek a one-fo-one return on investment but rather view it as paying-it-forward. Let karma take care of your payback. The more you help others the more vibrant, not just large, your network will become.

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    Diana Dahlberg February 23, 2016 at 3:14 am - Reply

    A very enlightening blog that helps you come out of your shell and realize there are others — just like you — and by opening yourself up to all the people around you will help you increase your communication skills and your life as you increase your network – business and personal.

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    Beth Bridges, The Networking Motivator February 28, 2016 at 3:08 pm - Reply

    Alex,
    As a networking expert, I was so very glad to see that you of course included “build your network” as one of the reasons to talk to strangers.

    AND, that you didn’t say “…so you can sell them something.”

    There are too many organizations that teach their team members to prospect right away. It’s incredibly difficult to do well and most of the time makes the person they talked to feel like they just received a cold sales call. And the person doing the “networking” (but really selling) will get frustrated because “networking doesn’t work.”

    The rest of the reasons are also very good ideas and will make you a better (good!) networker!

    Beth Bridges
    The Networking Motivator

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    Lani February 29, 2016 at 4:03 am - Reply

    Amazing blog! Well written article!! Thank you for this post loved the read as a business owner!!

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    Kari Velasquez March 7, 2016 at 10:27 pm - Reply

    Alex,

    This is a wonderful article. I was actually raised with this practice, one of the very few. My mother also practiced this. I have found it quite rewarding. When I ride the bus I sit in the front and talk to the bus driver. I always talk to children when our paths cross. I donated my lunch once to a homeless guy and blessed him this made my heart feel great.
    You made excellent points. I truly believe talking to strangers helps increase the Love in the Universe, something we need so very much. I also allow strangers to become my FB friends but only have time to chat with a few. They only ever become unfriended if they send me inappropriate private messages.
    I have taught my children this practice also, and because of that, they are well liked, and also loved by many. My boyfriend also practices this, which is one of our many great common interests.

    Blessings to you,

    Kami (my nickname)

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    Ally March 10, 2016 at 6:54 pm - Reply

    Alex, I absolutely love this! I’ve recently been gradually getting out of my own comfort zone and let me tell you, it feels phenomenal!

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    Anonymous April 18, 2016 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    Von Pratt

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    Anonymous April 18, 2016 at 2:30 pm - Reply

    Larry Page idol bin .!

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    Angie Deckard April 27, 2016 at 12:09 am - Reply

    These articles are so helpful. Don’t overlook them because you think they don’t work. I’ve tried the talking to strangers and it’s amazing how you feel. 8 ways to start morning off great is awesome. I’ve done 10 second of cold shower, good breakfast and yoga and just those have made a difference. Wonderful articles

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    Lucille October 19, 2016 at 1:13 am - Reply

    Beautifully written and highly motivating. I’m going to follow this advice, starting tomorrow. Thank you Alex.

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