It is so easy to think about others and not put ourselves first especially when we have a family to look after, a job that has high demands, friends or family that want your support, and much more. We can be snowed under with doing things for others that doing something for ourselves is last on our agenda.
What if I told you that putting yourself first should be the first priority? You may think I am crazy and it’s impossible and you don’t have time but to help others you need to give yourself some time for ourselves to recharge, have time out and revitalize.
1) First help you then help others
We are told when we are on a plane to do the safety procedures on ourselves and then our child or someone else who needs help. Why? Because we can’t help if we are not safe first. It’s the same with fire fighters, paramedics, nurses, or any other rescue team member they have to make sure their safety is first when entering a burnt down building for example.
It is no good if the medic doesn’t put his or her safety first and something bad happens to them and they can’t get to the person who needs help.
This maybe is hard if you always put others first before yourself. Takes some practice to do. Start with 5 or 10 minutes each day to have time yourself. This could be time having a bath, listening to relaxing music, mediate, being creative painting or drawing etc.
Let others know what you are doing so you are not disturbed. So if you are needed it can wait till you are finished. Once you have done 5 to 10 minutes a few times increase it to 30 minutes or more if you want.
2) Time for you is respecting yourself and your wellbeing
By giving yourself time you are putting yourself as a priority and a priority in other’s eyes around you. When people around you see you do this, it maybe a shock as they are used to you putting them first.
As time goes on they will see the rewards by “your time” ends up quality and rewarding time with them by being less stressed, more clarity, happier and more energy.
3) Do something new
When you make more time for yourself you end up wanting to learn new things. It could be learning a language, taking up a yoga class, join an art class or whatever you fancy doing.
When you do something new you are stretching yourself which is very rewarding as you see what strengths and sides to yourself you may have not explored when thinking about others. Joining a class or group in your community is a great way to connect with others with similar interests and you will make new friends that will encourage you and praise you for what you are doing.
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