“It is the quality of our relationships that most determines our State”
People are Emotional. Emotions play a vital role in our social life. Generating positive emotions can be very rewarding in nurturing our relationships with people.
However, not caring for the emotions of others or ignoring them, may sometimes result in big loss of genuinely good people in our lives. In the absence of good people, life may turn out to be hollow. And this hollowness is difficult to beat. So the whole idea is to generate positive emotions among the people whom we come across.
Making someone feel special is a great way to generate positive emotions. It shows how important they are for you. It gives you the chance to express your feelings for them. It gives them an impression that you care for them.
When someone cares for us, it gives an extreme amount of satisfaction, happiness, confidence & fulfillment. We are happily compelled to reciprocate the same. It’s a win – win situation!
We can make people feel special from any spheres of life – Family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, or strangers. When we make people feel special from all walks of life, our happiness, satisfaction, confidence & fulfillment level grows exponentially. So idea is to grow this circle beyond family. Bigger the circle of positive emotions, higher the rewards!
Now the question is how to make people feel special?
Here are 19 ways to make people feel special and nurture winning relationships with them…
1. Greet with a smile
Smile is the most pleasantly contagious gesture. It says “I am not harmful”. I am “one of your tribe”. Whether you meet strangers or known people, greet them with a smile, irrespective of your level of familiarity. It’s magical & gives lots of warmth to others.
2. Look into eyes
Eyes are the most genuine form of communication. When conversing with people, look into their eyes & talk as if there is no one else around. People feel important & worthy when they are given attention, especially through eyes.
3. Show gratitude
Remember the help given by people in tough times. The help may be in the form of Ideas, thoughts, discussion, money, time or guidance. When you succeed in life, go back to these people and say thanks for the help they gave in the past. It’s a great way of expressing gratitude. You may choose any form of expression, like –
* A Phone call
* An email
* A letter
* A beautiful bouquet
* Express gratitude on their Facebook timeline through a post or a video card or picture
* Pay a personal visit
4. Show respect
Pay respect to elders or those senior in ranks. Respect genuinely not just for the sake of it. At the back of their mind, they do notice whether you are taking their seniority genuinely or not. Win over them by paying due respect & borrow knowledge from their rich experience and wisdom.Few examples are –
* Don’t interrupt in between, ask questions at the end
* Don’t say, you disagree instead use words like you have different opinion or you want to add something
* Escort them to the exit
5. Give surprises
The best way to bring a smile on the face of people is to give them surprises. Identify occasions and send them any gift as a surprise at their residence or office.
6. Take notes
While meeting people in the formal atmosphere like clients or seniors, take notes in the diary. This captures their request, feedback or concern in the records & gives an impression that they are heard seriously. Also the notes taken are useful for your future reference.
7. Understand their preferences & interests
Find out the preferences & interests of people you deal in the life. Share ideas & thoughts based on their preferences & interests rather than discussing something that you like. This energizes them & opens up to winning conversations. It’s a great opportunity to build strong rapport with people. To know about their preferences & interests, visit their profiles on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or Instagram.
8. Send personalized greetings
Everyone has important dates in their life, like birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, retirement or arrival of new family members etc. Put extra effort to create a personalized image greeting & send. Use Google Images & applications like ‘Skitch or Photo Editor pro’ to create personalize greetings.
9. Sacrifice personal comfort
At times you are expected to give a favor to people who may put you in an uncomfortable position. It may mean sacrificing personal or family time. Don’t hesitate, it’s absolutely fine. People would return the favor with extra dividends in the future.
10. See off well
When people come to meet you at home or in office, keep courtesy to escort them till the exit. Share with them the best possible route & transportation to reach their destination back.
11. Praise in public
For any appreciation, you want to give to others, always give it publicly. Public appreciation magnifies the praise for the receiver. And any criticism, should be done in private.
12. Give credit for good work
Never take the credit of others good work. Always give the credit to people for their exceptional work. Help them to grow professionally or personally with their special talent and dedication. They would tag you as a person who is fair & genuine in approach.
13. Keep your promises
Never over – promise to others in the first place. Be very reasonable while promising. And if promised anything, ensure you live to your promise without fail. Especially, if it’s a promise given to your Spouse (on the lighter side)
14. Remember Names
Develop the habit of remembering names. The most special word in this universe for anyone is their name. People are in love with their name. Take some pain to remember names & let them be happy.
15. Share personal life
Allow people to know you personally. Share details about who all are there in your family & what are they doing. Ask about their personal life as well. It develops trust & establishes transparency. It brings a great opportunity to make good friends in life.
16. Give Endorsements
Write a short note for others about their skills, talent & qualities. Share these endorsements with them on their Facebook timeline or LinkedIn profile. The best day to endorse them is on their special days like birthday or anniversary.
17. Listen genuinely
Allow people to speak and genuinely listen to them. People feel comfortable when they are heard with respect & attention. Adopt a body language which supports active listening. Avoid taking calls and messaging on phone in the presence of others. It’s kind of insulting!
18. Take opinion
Allow interaction rather than a monologue. Try to build a consensus instead of your wishful thinking.
19. Return calls & messages
Reply back to people for any missed calls, unanswered calls or messages. Not returning calls & messages doesn’t go unnoticed. People take these gestures very personally. When these calls & messages are returned, they are taken very positively.
Have a great life!
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